They Don't Like Their Own Kind

Recently I met three women who don't seem to like me. Normally, this is something I might take personally or I might try to determine if I did something to offend these women. But not with these 3. They are the type - and I am sure you know girls like this - who don't get along with other women (except their own type, of course).

For example, I like to spend time with my female friends over a dinner and dessert so we have plenty of time to catch-up on what is new in our lives, with our other friends, our families, and with our work. These women, I have observed, sit with a bottle of wine, some fancy cheese and bread, and talk about other women (in a not so flattering way), discuss the salaries of the men they know, and talk about their boyfriends, in what I will call fairly shallow terms (e.g. "He's a nice guy - he saved me a parking space."). These are women who come over to your house for a party and take over the job of "hostess" because it is abundantly clear (to them) that only they can handle that role and make your party a success.

I make efforts to be nice to these women. When I say "Hi, how's it going?" in a cheery voice I usually get barely a look in my direction or a "Hi", but their tone says "bitch." When I am the third party in a conversation with these women, they look at the other person, never acknowledging my contributions to the conversation. They don't even try the "I will pretend to like her" thing.

I barely know these women, so there is nothing they could have against me, as far as I can tell. I am not dating one of their exes, or their brothers, and they know very little about me. I don't look like a supermodel, so they don't hate me because I am beautiful. I have female friends both at work and from other parts of my life who I have had for years, so I am confident the problem here does not lie with me. With the exception of one occasion for woman #1, I have never seen these three women with, or even mention, female acquaintances or friends. They are together, alone, or with boyfriends. I am going to hazard a guess: this is because everyone else has already figured it out...these girls just don't like other girls, and are cold and pretentious when they deal with the rest of us.

I'm not sure what the proper way to handle this is, because I am not able to totally avoid these women. I'm open to suggestions....I guess for now, instead of going out of my way to say "Hi!" to women #1, #2, and #3, I will save my energy.